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Accustom to a Soul

Written two years before my mother's death. Is one's essence defined by the age of the body or their culture, economic status or gender? What are we without context time, gender and culture? My mother has gone through a true metamorphosis and continues to do so. She wears different costumes of the mind. Each costume is unique and from a different time in her life; drawing upon different life experiences. Alzheimer's disease has sponsored my mother's time travel. My mother was the provider of the family, thanklessly working two sometimes three jobs to make ends meet. Now her life has turned itself upon its head for she is completely dependent upon the family for her basic survival needs. I am painfully aware of my mother's constantly changing context of time, emotion and libido. The self my mother is most ill at ease with, is within the glare of the here and now. Although I feel relieved each time she returns, it is a selfish relief for her face is fil...

Have You Taken Your Chill Pill?

When  ​life is ​ overflowing with activities and appointments, sandwiched between  busy weekends we all need to remember to chill. What I'd really like is a few minutes on this glorious summer day to sit down among some flowers with a cup of coffee to reflect and to just be still. Easier said than done. With no time at all, how can I squeeze that essential life spirit back into busy days and relax and refill when I need it most? Of course, the answer is I simply have to force myself to make time, even if it's just a few minutes. I say to myself the housework will wait, the paper clutter will not run away, the texts, emails and voice mails will still be there. But for now, I will do something even more important. These are some of my favorite ways to chill: Reflection by writing. Putting thoughts on paper. Checking into my blog, writing in my journal, scribbling down a few notes for my scrapbook to use another day when there is more time. Ap...

Middle Aged Love

I think middle-aged love is far superior to young love. When I was young, I probably thought it was gross for people my current age to be cavorting about, having sex and kissing in public....they ’re just too old for that stuff. Imagine my surprise when I reached 40 and 50 and realized that love is love is love is love. It just doesn’t matter what age we are. When we fall in love, our body creates all these crazy chemicals that basically, well….make us crazy. The good news is…..that doesn’t change with age. The bad news is…. that doesn’t change with age. It’s about the only thing that doesn’t change. Our bodies change for one thing. Everything is looser, flabbier, succumbing to gravity. The other thing that changes is everything. In our youth, we bring our parents and our upbringing into our relationships. We can’t help it. We haven’t worked through our “stuff.” In fact, most people don’t even know they have “stuff” at that point. In middle-age, your parents may be a par...